I have been studying relationships over the last three years. (Practicing them has been an adventure [there has been much failure]). I have recently solidified an understanding of what healthy relationships look like. I have been looking for relationships that are safe places of learning. Where I can make mistakes, voice wrong opinions as I work through my understandings, work through difficult concepts, and not be judged as I struggle through this mortal existence. I have been truly blessed to find this relationship in my current roommate. I have said all sorts of crap to her as I have tried to figure out life. I have worked through ideas to get to the other side. Some of the things I have said have been wrong, but she hasn’t judged me for them, and then when I get to the other side and state my new understanding, she just kind of smiles at me that I’ve figured it out. I really have been looking for that safe space relationship with a guy, but there is a whole lot more risk involved there, and I haven’t been able to overcome the obstacles (that both he and I put in the way) to achieve that.
I recently realized that the Lord gives us this kind of relationship as well. The point of life is to go through hard things. Life is messy and uncomfortable. But we have repentance, and He has ALREADY FORGIVEN US FOR THE THINGS WE DON’T KNOW! How amazing is that! The Lord has already modeled what healthy relationships look like for us.Unfortunately, I am not very good at providing this. It will be something I will continue to work towards. I’m sure I’ll make lots of mistakes. Good news, the Lord will forgive me
